Lately, I’ve been encountering more and more gay cis-dudes who provide me with unsolicited advice about my appearance and make comments regarding my body. Knock it off, dude, it’s not cute. You don’t get a free pass to reduce me to an object whose social worth depends on how attractive I am, nor do you get a “Get Outta Jail Free” card for being misogynist. I choose when and if I shave, wear a dress, or put on make-up. I choose to have this ridiculous hipster haircut or to grow my hair long. WHY? BECAUSE IT IS MY CHOICE. More importantly, I DON’T HAVE TO IMPROVE FOR NO ONE BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS CUTE.