Not wanting anything to do with a penis is not transphobia.
Never wanting to see a penis is not transphobia.
Not wanting to have sexual contact with a penis is not transphobia.
Finding penises unattractive is not transphobia.
I highly suggest that you read this article: www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3175417?uid=3739728&uid=2&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=21103163930943
Rape and sexual assault is not an universal problem. It is a cultural and societal problem. Again, simply having a penis does not make one a possible assailant or perpetrator, nor does it make one automatically “male”. To believe that it does is cissexist and contrary to the point of feminism which is the liberation of all people, including transwomen. Also, there’s a difference between one’s sex (anatomical parts & secondary sex characteristics) and their gender (how they perceive themselves and wish to be perceived).
I do not claim to be the spokesperson for all survivors, but I do advocate for a feminism that is inclusive for all people. One that tries to forgive those who transgress us, one that champions on the rights and freedoms of all people, and one that exemplifies empathy and compassion (not exclusion and bigotry).
I do not think excluding transwomen or really any marginalized group from feminist events and practices is productive precisely for this reason. Are we really going to adopt the mindset of the lesbian separatists of the Second Wave? I thought we’re beyond that. I thought we learned our lesson, when the those same feminists alienated straight women, bisexual women, poor women, and women of color? I mean, c’mon.